Even a single rose scores points from her.
Even though a man cannot be fully responsible for his partners’ happiness, it is still something he strives to do.
Regardless of his good intentions, however, when a woman is feeling overwhelmed, it is going be very difficult for him to make her happy.
Just as men keep score in sports, women keep score in their relationships. What guys generally don’t know is that on Venus, every act of love scores the same one point. Be it small or large, points for love are all the same.
To understand why this is true, you have to understand a woman’s brain chemistry and the role the hormone, oxytocin, plays in a woman’s life.
Oxytocin is the social attachment hormone. Some call it the “love hormone.” It is produced in great quantities during childbirth and lactation; and also produced in significant amounts by both sexes during orgasm. The production of oxytocin in a woman stimulates both maternal instincts and sexual arousal. It reduces blood pressure, cortisol levels,* and anxiety.
Researchers have discovered that oxytocin lowers stress in women, but does not have the same effect in men. In fact, stimulating too much oxytocin in a man can actually reduce his testosterone levels, whereas too much testosterone in a woman can lower the effectiveness of oxytocin in reducing her stress.
And there lies the problem, in today’s society where women commonly find themselves engaged in the testosterone driven atmosphere of the office workplace, oxytocin levels can drop significantly during the day. Therefore a man who knows how to raise his partners’ oxytocin level can bring her real happiness while scoring some points along the way.
Here are 25 easy ways that a man can score points and raise his partners’ oxytocin levels:
1. Make her coffee or tea in the morning, especially on the weekend.
2. Tell her she looks as beautiful as the day you first met.
3. Hug her when you or she first come through the door after a long day at the office.
4. Give her a kiss on the cheek, not as a prelude to intimacy but just because you’re happy to be in her presence.
5. Encourage her to go on a night out with her girlfriends.
6. Make a CD mix of her favorite songs.
7. Offer to massage her feet when you both get into bed.
8. Give her car a wash without being asked.
9. Call to find out if she needs you to stop at the market on your way home.
10. Suggest taking her parents out to dinner.
11. Take that vacation photo she loves and put it in a frame for her.
12. Rent a romantic comedy on DVD.
13. Surprise her by making the bed and leaving something special like a rose on her pillow.
14. Make a date to meet her for lunch.
15. Make a fire in the fireplace on a rainy day before she asks for one.
16. Surprise her with a gift subscription to a magazine she loves.
17. Take her for a drive to a favorite spot that’s special to both of you.
18. If she’s done the grocery shopping, offer to put the groceries away.
19. Get an audio book that she’ll enjoy when you take a car trip together.
20. Plan a date for the evening, no need to blow the budget, just have a special time you can both share.
21. Talk to her about a dream trip and offer to start a special fund to make that trip a reality.
22. If she is making dinner, be sure to set the table.
23. Send her an email or text message during the day that tells her how much you are looking forward to spending the night with her.
24. Thank her for loving you!
25. Simply tell her how much you love her!
* Sustained high cortisol levels damage healthy muscle and bone, slows healing and normal cell regeneration. It also co-opts the biochemicals a body needs to make other vital hormones, impair digestion, metabolism and mental function. Ultimately, high levels of cortisol will weaken a perosn’s immune system
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