Time together is always romantic.
Men hunger for great sex, while women long for romance. If men better understood this subtle, yet essential difference, they would never again doubt the powerful role romance plays in their relationship.
To fulfill a woman’s need for romance, a man first needs to understand what romance is and why it is so important. Receiving cards, emails, cut flowers, sitting outside under the moonlight, date nights, eating out, and more are all things that spell romance.
Regularly women make the mistake of thinking that romance is not important to men and that is why they are unwilling to create these special moments. The simple truth is that most men just don’t get why romance is so basic to a successful relationship. Men are happy in the early stages of a relationship to do all the small things that say to his beloved, you are adored; but while he instinctively courts a woman, he has no real understanding of why he needs to continue doing romantic acts.
Here are six simple steps any man can take starting today to reawaken the romance in his marriage.
1. Stay in touch. Chances are you both go in separate directions during a busy workday and, if you don’t count the hours sleeping in the same bed, more of your year is spent apart than together. So send an email, a text message, or make a quick call. She is your touchstone, and you are that to her. Act accordingly, and show that recognition by reaching out to her at least once or more during each day.
2. There’s no reason to forget an important date. Before we had buzzers and bells, email reminders, I-phone message pop-ups and on, and on, you could argue that the busy guy just forgot. That doesn’t work to well in the connected world of 2009. Calendar all those important dates, starting with her birthday, and your wedding anniversary and make sure you do something that expresses how important your partner is in your life.
3. Be a gentleman. Speaking about our modern times, some guys think that all forms of gentlemanly behavior died long before the Internet. Not true. Just about every woman still finds these small acts to be meaningful and romantic. Open a car door, build a fire, help her with the groceries. Better yet don’t even wait to be asked. Try to remember what you did when you were dating, and do it all over again.
4. Make time for your relationship. Men easily fall into the trap of working at their jobs, and or careers, to the exclusion of all other aspects of their lives. If your relationship is your fifth priority on a list of four, she’ll get the idea and you can kiss romantic intimacy goodbye. There is nothing less romantic then sending the unspoken message to your life partner that your relationship simply does not matter.
5. Shut-up and listen. Men are always ready to offer a quick solution. Or as men often say, “Can you get to the point?” A loving romantic act can happen in a fifteen minute walk just by taking the time to hear about your partner’s day.” Then, the most important part, listening to what she has to say. Women find few traits more romantic in a man than his ability to listen.
6. Random acts of kindness. Nothing is more romantic than an act of spontaneous kindness based not upon a special day, but simply as a declaration of love. Married men tend to sink into the deep well of daily accomplishments, and forget to take time to do something just as a loving surprise. It could be dinner out, some cut flowers, or a small card that says, “I love you.” Women love random and unexpected acts of romance and her response to any such act is quite often to engage in the great sex that says to him, keep giving me what I want and you’ll get much more of what you want.
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