Twelve Ways Women Flirt

July 15, 2009

When the chemistry is right, flirting is always on tap.

In the dating game, men pursue and women flirt. To create a relationship, a woman must be careful not to pursue a man but to be responsive to his pursuit. This openness on the part of a woman is expressed through flirting.

Flirting is much like shopping. You can try things on and put back whatever doesn’t fit or feel right. Flirting energy says, “I am looking and like what I see. Maybe you could be the one to make me happy.”

Although almost anything a woman does with a receptive attitude could be considered flirting, here are twelve examples of definite flirting signals that will enable a man to recognize that a woman is receptive to his pursuit.

1. She may just smile and make eye contact for about three to five seconds in a way that says, “I might be interested,” and then look away.

2. She may tilt her head, as if to inquisitively say, “I wonder if you are the right guy for me?”

3. Flashing eyelids can say, “Where have you been? I’ve been waiting for someone just like you.”

4. Getting up and walking close by a man, as if to say, “If you haven’t been paying attention and noticed me, now you have a second chance. The next move is yours.”

5. She can look his way, catch his eyes for a moment, and look away. After ten seconds she looks again, for a longer period of time and with a smile. This says, “If you’re interested come over and introduce yourself, I promise to be nice.”

6. Brushing up against a man she is attracted to and then saying in a playful way, “Oh, I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to get so close.”

7. She may casually touch his hand while talking as a means of acknowledging that she appreciates his attentiveness. When touching his hand and giving a slight smile she is saying, “I like that we are connecting and I’m enjoying our conversation.”

8. Touching his leg above the knee or his shoulder makes the point that she feels safe and comfortable in his presence. When removing her hand, if she pauses to catch her breath it’s saying, “I liked the spark I felt when I touched you.”

9. She can be playfully argumentative in a discussion or even challenge his point of view as if to say, “We may not always agree but I like you anyway. I enjoy another point of view and I am stimulated by what you have to say.”

10. When asking him to carry something or to help her in some way, she may take a deep breath, then relax and exhale as if to say, “I love to feel like I’m being cared for, this is really so nice.”

11. She may ask him a question about something and then playfully revel in his brilliance, saying something like, “Wow, you really do have all the answers.” He knows he doesn’t, but he likes hearing this nonetheless.

12. Finally, admiring a physical characteristic of his. Men rarely tire of hearing anything about themselves from a woman they feel attracted to. It could be his broad shoulders, sweet smile, wavy hair, warm eyes, etc. This says, “You have caught my attention and I am pleased with what I see.”

Next Wednesday we’ll have a companion story on how men pursue. These two topics are covered along with much more in John Gray’s number-one bestselling book, “Mars and Venus on a Date.”

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