We come out of the process of divorce with a hunger and neediness that makes us particularly ill prepared for another committed relationship. We have to heal that neediness before we are truly ready to love again. If you have lived with this pain and sense of loss and separation for a few days, weeks, or [...]

Your success in finding love again after a divorce has a lot to do with your ability to move beyond the pain of your loss. As you know, of course, that won’t happen overnight. In fact, true healing is something only time, reflection, and attitude can teach us. So, perhaps most importantly, it’s time to ask [...]

Various studies show with great consistency that divorced individuals fail to anticipate the real world of post married life, and often regret their decision to divorce. This regret, as you might expect, occurs over time and in a variety of different lifestyle expectations. Additionally, in spite of the ever improving levels of equality for women [...]

In yesterday’s Mars Venus Living feature, a divorced 45 year-old woman from Palm Beach, Florida wrote to John asking his opinion of online dating services. She had been disappointed with her results thus far because every time she had gone out on a date it appeared to go well, but there was never a follow-up [...]

One of the most frequent questions we receive at Mars Venus Living goes something like this: “Last year my spouse and I divorced. I was hoping to move on with my life but I am still very angry and very disappointed that my marriage did not work out, what can I do to heal the [...]

British law firms call the first Monday of the New Year, “D-Day.” In this case the D stands for divorce. We’re not aware of any similar survey of North American lawyers, so perhaps there is a spike in phone calls to law firms on this side of the “pond” at this time of year as [...]

Dear Lauren, I am having a very difficult time of finalizing my divorce.  For over 15 years, the man I married lied to me. He didn’t work, he hid bills from me, he never slept in my bed, and he called me a “f….ing b—tch” and told me to go back to “the third world [...]

One concept at the basis of all forms of healing throughout the world is talk therapy. By talking about the past, you are able to remember your pain, rather than feeling you are still being hurt.
But talking after divorce is not always easy. Shame about failure in the relationship keeps some of us from talking [...]

It’s all but too common that single parents will feel the need to push love away because they are overly concerned that their children will be jealous or upset with them for getting involved again.
While this apprehension is correct – that their children may indeed be jealous –  this is not a good reason to [...]

One of the ways a man starting over pushes love away is to proclaim to himself and his circle of family and friends that he simply “cannot make up his mind,” about a woman he finds, “very attractive, and desirable.” In fact this is not only true of the man starting over, but often of [...]