If you are not getting the support you want in your relationship, there is a strong possibility that you don’t ask enough or that you are asking in a way that simply does not work. You should not interpret that failure as a sign to stop asking. In truth, feeling free to ask for love [...]

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For most of the second half of the last century, couples cohabitating were said to be “living in sin.” And prior to 1950, well let’s just say it was not done. In the 19th Century, cohabitation was considered a scandal.
Today, as we suspect you know, more couples than ever before cohabitate, at least for a [...]

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The most common way women unknowingly start arguments with their intimate partners is by not being direct when they share their feelings. Instead of directly expressing her dislike or disappointment, a woman asks rhetorical questions and communicates her disapproval. Even though this is often not the message she wants to give.
A common example of this [...]

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The most common way men start arguments is by invalidating a woman’s feelings or point of view.
Here’s a common example: A man will often make light of a woman’s negative feelings. He will say something like, “Don’t worry about it.” Said to another man this phrase would seem friendly and reassuring. But said to an [...]

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Dear John, My husband and I are coming up on our first anniversary. We have two children from my previous marriage. We are very happy spiritually, emotionally and physically, but “instant family syndrome” is draining us of our romantic urges.  Can you suggest ways we might keep our newlywed sex life alive? Andre in Burnaby, British [...]

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Various studies show with great consistency that divorced individuals fail to anticipate the real world of post married life, and often regret their decision to divorce. This regret, as you might expect, occurs over time and in a variety of different lifestyle expectations. Additionally, in spite of the ever improving levels of equality for women [...]

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Too most of us they are long buried and in a very real sense long forgotten. Understandable given the fact that America’s first president died 211 years ago and its first first lady died 208 years ago. But of course there was a time when these two people were flesh and blood. Filled with the [...]

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