If you are not getting the support you want in your relationship, there is a strong possibility that you don’t ask enough or that you are asking in a way that simply does not work. You should not interpret that failure as a sign to stop asking. In truth, feeling free to ask for love [...]

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The most common way women unknowingly start arguments with their intimate partners is by not being direct when they share their feelings. Instead of directly expressing her dislike or disappointment, a woman asks rhetorical questions and communicates her disapproval. Even though this is often not the message she wants to give.
A common example of this [...]

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The most common way men start arguments is by invalidating a woman’s feelings or point of view.
Here’s a common example: A man will often make light of a woman’s negative feelings. He will say something like, “Don’t worry about it.” Said to another man this phrase would seem friendly and reassuring. But said to an [...]

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Sure Valentine’s Day is an important day to do something impressive for your significant other. But too often, men focus on the big acts of love and forget the small ones that for women count every bit as much.
Generally on Venus women naturally exchange simple, thoughtful acts of kindness. Martians on the other hand, ignore [...]

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Understanding our Mars/Venus differences does not come naturally. What comes naturally to all of us is recognizing our own needs. This is particularly true when it comes to distinguishing the various forms of emotional support that one partner needs as opposed to the other. It takes time and patience to learn how to support those different [...]

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Last week we received the annual report from the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, on The State of Our Unions, and not surprisingly, as we emerge from the Great Recession, much of the report focused on the effect of the economic downturn on the stability of our marriages.
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Men relieve stress better by sharing their problems with a therapist rather than with their partners. One reason for this is that women tend to take on too much responsibility themselves and can become too maternal and goal-oriented. This weakens their men and places an additional burden on themselves.
Rather than relying on her emotional support, [...]

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