Written on September 11, 2009 at 1:01 am by MVL Staff

Multiple Marriages: If at First You Don’t Succeed…

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wedding_couple Dear Readers, Sharing your life with one true love is a beautiful experience—

But for some people it takes several tries to get it right.

Of course, getting it right is the goal. That said, it may take patience and persistence to hit the mark. Happiness comes as long as we’re seeking to achieve that goal.

Many people are very happy in their lives, despite having been married several times. It’s like changing jobs. Sometimes people change careers, and that for them can be fulfilling and common.

For those who want to share their lives with one person, it’s absolutely possible that you can achieve this.

That is the commitment I’ve made to my own wife, Bonnie We look forward to sharing the rest of our lives together. I can say that, even after 25 years together.

But this would not be possible if I didn’t truly take to heart what I write about in books like, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and Why Mars and Venus Collide. I can’t say it will ensure every couple stays together for a lifetime, but if they want to do that, it will certainly help them achieve that goal.

The point, however, is not to condemn yourself or your ex to years of disapproval for a relationship that did not work. Recognize the truth that we nearly all enter into marriage speaking the vows of commitment, but for many of us that true and lasting commitment simply does not exist in our hearts.

If you both truly share that depth of commitment than make the promise to each other that when your relationship confronts obstacles, you will make every attempt to persevere. An important part of that is being forever open to hearing the hopes and fears of your partner, and willingness on both your parts to learn new relationship skills that can play a critical role in making your relationship last. You can do this by reading books, attending support groups, and if need be getting professional counseling. The bottom line: work at the relationship if, in your heart, you feel it;s worth saving.

And if it not, you’re both hopefully wiser when you part.

And should you give marriage a try you’ll have the skills to .share a bond of love that will last a lifetime.

-John Gray

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