Great Sex Comes in a Variety of Choices
July 10, 2009
Variety is the spice of life–especially when it comes to sex.
No matter how compatible a couple may be, they would still be wise to vary their intimacy; because as we all know, variety is the spice of life. Here are three great dishes to rotate for your sexual repertoire, and reasons why each one should have a regular place on your menu of great sex.
The three intimacy dishes are: healthy home-cooked sex, gourmet sex, and fast food sex.
How you rotate your love-making encounters is a choice for every couple to make individually. But each one of these dishes should be on your intimacy menu at least once or twice a month. Here’s why:
Let’s start with “fast food sex,” commonly known as the quickie. Lots of guys want to have this kind of sex at least twice a month but are hesitant to ask. Kind of like a muscle car that looks to be taken out on the highway every now and then to have the engine run hot and fast, there are so many guys who just want to have a brief and intense interlude, but don’t dare ask for it knowing full well that this kind of sex shortchanges a woman’s need to rise more slowly to a full and satisfying experience.
The opposite end of this pole is “gourmet sex.” That’s the fully experienced interlude that preferably starts with an evening out or perhaps a candlelit dinner at home. Candles in the bedroom, scented sheets, maybe some massage oil, and anything and everything that makes this a special sexual occasion is right for this four-course banquet.
Between these two poles is the loving middle ground of “healthy home-cooked sex.” That comes with healthy portions of foreplay, a man “with a slow hand, and an easy touch” and a nice amount of cuddling afterward. It’s not a date night but it can be a great night nonetheless.
Mixing up your acts of intimacy is of great value because it allows both partners to express their range of sexual desires. Just as a quickie is a great treat for a man, letting him express the more explosive side of his sexual passion; healthy home-cooked sex allows a woman to bask in the glow of erotic attention. No rush, simply the pleasure of lingering in the comfort and fullness of mutual satisfaction.
And those special nights when a gourmet sexual encounter is on the menu should be a total treat for both partners.
A life of shared intimacy is just as exciting or just as repetitive and uninteresting, as each partner makes it. Share your thoughts with each other on which one of these menu items you wish to pursue. Just as you learned as children, share all the toys, be creative and thoughtful of your partner’s needs.
And then, most importantly, enjoy. There’s more to a relationship than a full and healthy sexual life, but it is a great foundation on which to build a lifetime of happy memories.
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