In Praise of Great Sex
July 20, 2009
Great sex is important for a happy relationship.
You can’t say too much in praise of great sex and its power to help keep a couple both happy and close. Great sex is the most powerful way to open a man’s heart and help him to feel his love and express it to a woman. Great sex softens a woman’s heart and helps her to relax and receive her partner’s support in other areas of the relationship.
This softening of her feelings dramatically improves her ability to communicate in a manner that her partner can hear without becoming defensive. This improved communication in turn provides a basis for sex to remain passionate.
When a couple is experiencing relationship problems, sometimes, instead of focusing on the problems, taking a shortcut and creating great sex immediately reduces the problems and makes them easier to solve. Too often a healthy sex life (excuse a simple analogy) can become like the neglected house plant. It flourishes and blooms beautifully for a long time, but life can get so hectic (read job, kids, expenses) that in time it just becomes ignored. Days rush by and you forgot to water it, or put it out on the porch for some extra sunlight, or take it in when it gets to hot, or give it just a little bit of that plant food that it loves.
Before long that once thriving plant is beginning to look a bit limp. The vibrancy of its color has faded and some of the leaves have become brown and wilted at the tips. In other words, a thing of beauty, be it a houseplant, or much more importantly your shared sex life, can go from wonderful to dull in a relatively short period of time.
It’s not uncommon after several years of marriage for one of the partners to lose interest in sex. The myth is that it more often than not is the wife who has lost interest, but in truth it is far more common that a wife will seek advice on how to restart a stalled sex life.
Remember this simple fact: if you are a couple suffering, as millions of marriages do at various times, from a stalled sex life, there is a lot of material out there that can help you get back on track. From books, to videos, and more, we should be thankful that we live in an age when this important topic can be discussed without social restrictions.
Invest the time and care to look into this wealth of materials. Your marriage and the happiness of your sex life is more than worth it. John Gray’s bestseller, Mars and Venus in the Bedroom is one such choice. It’s great to read a book like this together because it can encourage a dialogue between a man and a woman on what they feel works well and what they think can be improved in their sex life. As John wrote in the introduction to his book about securing lasting romance and passion in your marriage, “Great sex is God’s gift to those who are committed to creating loving and supportive relationships. Great sex is your reward, and you deserve it.”
Don’t let the beauty of great sex in your relationship simply fade away. With some attention and care your sex life can remain vibrant and wonderful throughout all the years you are blessed to be together.
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November 2nd, 2009 at 4:07 AM
[...] Women actually do love sex, but before they can feel their desire for it, they have more requirements than men. A man doesn’t readily understand this because throughout his life, he gets many messages that women don’t like sex. To sustain passion and attraction in a relationship over the years, a man needs clear messages that she loves having sex with him. [...]