Comments on: Dear Lauren: He’s Clingy, and I’m Not Attracted Anymore… http://marsvenusliving.com/single-dating/clingy-guys/ For the Best Relationships on Earth Mon, 15 Mar 2010 08:13:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Lauren Gray http://marsvenusliving.com/single-dating/clingy-guys/comment-page-1/#comment-4071 Lauren Gray Fri, 05 Mar 2010 22:37:50 +0000 http://marsvenusliving.com/?p=2805#comment-4071 The point is guys and girls are different. That's why we work. Its like magnets; negative charges repel each other, positive charges repel each other, but negative and positive charges attract. Hence, "opposites attract." Here's the situation: men like to be there for women in distress but women aren't interested in men in distress. Picture a classic fairy tale, a man rides up to the castle, slays the dragon and rescues the fair maiden. I guarantee you they have sex that night. The man is turned on by the fact that he saved her and she is turned on by the fact that he fought for her. Now flip it. A woman rides up to the castle, slays the Minotaur, and rescues the prince. I promise you she dresses his wounds, feeds him a nice hot meal, and holds him in her arms. Nobody gets laid that night. Rather than being turned on to him, she starts feeling like his mother. When a woman pursues a man in distress, the results are disappointing. That's the reality of the situation. I just want to clarify something before I sign off. I have NOT recommended talking about "hurt feelings" to a guy, its a good way to turn him off as well. Instead of making him the hero you make him the villian by telling him he hurt you. When a man rescues a woman in distress, he is the hero because there is always a bad guy like a dragon or a minotaur or a mean boss or a manipulative step-mother that causes the woman distress. When you tell him he hurt your feelings, he feels like HE is the dragon and this will immediately turn him off to you. For a man making you happy is the ultimate success while causing you distress is the ultimate failure. -Lauren The point is guys and girls are different. That’s why we work. Its like magnets; negative charges repel each other, positive charges repel each other, but negative and positive charges attract. Hence, “opposites attract.” Here’s the situation: men like to be there for women in distress but women aren’t interested in men in distress. Picture a classic fairy tale, a man rides up to the castle, slays the dragon and rescues the fair maiden. I guarantee you they have sex that night. The man is turned on by the fact that he saved her and she is turned on by the fact that he fought for her.
Now flip it. A woman rides up to the castle, slays the Minotaur, and rescues the prince. I promise you she dresses his wounds, feeds him a nice hot meal, and holds him in her arms. Nobody gets laid that night. Rather than being turned on to him, she starts feeling like his mother. When a woman pursues a man in distress, the results are disappointing. That’s the reality of the situation.
I just want to clarify something before I sign off. I have NOT recommended talking about “hurt feelings” to a guy, its a good way to turn him off as well. Instead of making him the hero you make him the villian by telling him he hurt you. When a man rescues a woman in distress, he is the hero because there is always a bad guy like a dragon or a minotaur or a mean boss or a manipulative step-mother that causes the woman distress. When you tell him he hurt your feelings, he feels like HE is the dragon and this will immediately turn him off to you. For a man making you happy is the ultimate success while causing you distress is the ultimate failure.

-Lauren

]]> By: mmd http://marsvenusliving.com/single-dating/clingy-guys/comment-page-1/#comment-3821 mmd Mon, 18 Jan 2010 05:35:36 +0000 http://marsvenusliving.com/?p=2805#comment-3821 so it is ok for a women to express how her feelings got hurt when she did not get what she wanted because the man has to be sensitive to her needs or on the opposite he should give her what she wants because he should be understanding but if a man does that, he is weak and needy? You cant have your cake and eat it too. so it is ok for a women to express how her feelings got hurt when she did not get what she wanted because the man has to be sensitive to her needs or on the opposite he should give her what she wants because he should be understanding but if a man does that, he is weak and needy? You cant have your cake and eat it too.

]]> By: Dear Lauren: Waiting for him to Pop the Question | Mars Venus LIVING http://marsvenusliving.com/single-dating/clingy-guys/comment-page-1/#comment-3025 Dear Lauren: Waiting for him to Pop the Question | Mars Venus LIVING Sat, 11 Jul 2009 21:58:16 +0000 http://marsvenusliving.com/?p=2805#comment-3025 [...] have been together for far less time than us are getting married and starting their lives together. The more he sees me sad or angry about it, the more he pulls away. How do I let all of this go and just be happy? What do couples do when one wants marriage and is [...] [...] have been together for far less time than us are getting married and starting their lives together. The more he sees me sad or angry about it, the more he pulls away. How do I let all of this go and just be happy? What do couples do when one wants marriage and is [...]

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